(I’ll pass you the usher+chemistry song over msn when I see you online. and astrosexy!! you must hear astrosexy! ^___^)

I don’t see how you “allow” yourself to have feelings. It just comes to you. However, I agree it’s up to the person to let emotions take over or suppress it.

agrees that we find (love) by ourselves. used to think that love is to be learnt and taught like a subject in school b/c either you know it (if it is love) by now or don’t. btw, nice site lah =)

actually i guess i noticed this post a little more than most, i think i’m falling for someone right now, but i don’t really notice myself falling more when i’m not around them. I actually notice a lot of their good traits when i’m with them. I was attracted to the person before i knew them, but it seems that the’re a lot more apparent to me when i’m around them, though i do think about it outside, i wouldn’t have thought of them had i not been thinking about it while i was with them at the same time. There is a difference between the love that is just convienient, and a love that’s hmmm seredipidous?

A deficit of answers is a good thing. I like the challenge of discovering.

(Thanks! That’s my fave Usher tune and Chemistry are pretty cool, so it makes me wonder. I may set up my FTP actually, which will save you directly uploading it to my hard drive, via my sluggish 56k modem ^_^)

Mona: I didn’t mean that you “allow” yourself to have feelings. What I mean is that you are the person responsible for allowing those initial tingly feelings to amplify. You may be attracted to someone and have feelings for them, but you can’t really fall in love with them till you really think about them. Feelings and chemistry manifest by themselves but love only happens when you bring it on and take it further (as you said). And that’s the reason why love can be such a powerful force; because you are your own best appropriator.

Li: Hi and thanks! That’s an interesting concept. We can safely say that hate is taught, so does love follow the same rules? It’s difficult to say because environmental factors do have an influence on what we deem attractive and desire.

Oliver: Hmmm, perhaps my entry has made you overanalyse your situation too much, heheh. You may not notice yourself falling more when you’re not around them but once that initial seed is planted, it will inevitably grow.

Falling for someone is a combination of conscious and subconsious working together, but only after that initial spark.

I think quite a few people confused my distinction between feelings/chemistry and actual falling. Chemistry is essentially the rapport (with sensual undertones) you strike up with that other person and since it’s rapport, it’s something you can only feel in their presence. Falling for someone is something that will happen only when you’ve thought about them and formed an image of them in your head, in their absence. Sure, you’ll notice more of their good traits in their presence after that, but this is only because you’ve already fallen for them. After falling for them, you’ll inevitably pick up on the little things that you like about them, e.g. the way they bat their eyelids, the shape their eyebrows form when they’re perplexed, or perhaps even the way they eat a bowl of noodles!

In the presence of that person, you’re only going to dwell on what you perceive through your senses: the lines of their face, the dulcet tones of their voice, the sweetness of their scent. It’s only when you’re away from them that you’ll give yourself a chance to perceive them through your mind’s eye; the thing that processes the sensations you felt in their presence. Your mind and your senses have a complementary relationship, so after being in that person’s presence, you’ll think more about them in their absence and vice versa.

I believe that all love is serendipitous. It’s a discovery that you make when you go looking for it inside of yourself. I’m glad to hear of your current experience. The best of luck to you in its pursuit and development.